You go through life's various phases.. Kindergarten, School, College, Post Grad... You change cities, jobs.. get married.. at each of these stages you make friends.. some still exist in your life.. some remain as a number or email id in your contact list.. a lot fall by the side as you strive on moving from one milestone to another..
Why do those friends with whom you shared the trials and tribulations of life suddenly become just a number or an id? What prompts this phenomenon? It's not like you've had a fight or parted on bitter terms..
It's seems weird given that it's so easy to stay in constant touch these days.. cell phones, chat, email.. you can't disappear so easily. But then people do.
Why do those friends with whom you shared the trials and tribulations of life suddenly become just a number or an id? What prompts this phenomenon? It's not like you've had a fight or parted on bitter terms..
It's seems weird given that it's so easy to stay in constant touch these days.. cell phones, chat, email.. you can't disappear so easily. But then people do.
Is it to do with the fact that as you move into the next phase of life, the things that bound you together no longer exist? e.g you don't work in the same office so the office gossip and the bitching sessions are no longer relevant to the person who's left.. You move on to different paths, some get married and have had babies while you were busy climbing the corporate ladder..
Priorities change.. you don't find common ground to talk about.. and life goes on.. So as weeks, months and then years go by you look back and wonder where did that person disappear..
You've both grown but not grown together.. this happens not just between friends but also in marriages. I guess partners who ensure that they grow together, share not just love but goals, dreams and paths build a relationship which can stand the test of time and stress.
Priorities change.. you don't find common ground to talk about.. and life goes on.. So as weeks, months and then years go by you look back and wonder where did that person disappear..
You've both grown but not grown together.. this happens not just between friends but also in marriages. I guess partners who ensure that they grow together, share not just love but goals, dreams and paths build a relationship which can stand the test of time and stress.
Another weird thing is that no matter how many new people you meet and socialize with during every new phase, you realize very few are really what you would count as good friends..
You cross into your thirties and count the friends that you have. There is this handful or sometimes an even lesser number.. some of these might be scattered across the globe.. But when you need someone to share the most amazing news about yourself or just a pick me up, they are the ones you call or sms or email. And they respond.. And they have been with you for sometime now.. And then at the end of it all, you just hope that you always remain important to them, because you can't afford to lose any more friends.
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